“love” your abusive spouse

When you focus on how much you “love” your abusive spouse you lose sight of two important things: Love doesn’t hurt. you don’t love them but it feels like love. It’s called Trauma Bond. You can refocus your thoughts onto something

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Confronting a Narcissist

Confronting a Narcissist

Why do narcissists get so angry when they’re confronted? Before that question gets answered, you first need to know what is a narcissistic injury? Narcissistic people are highly shame avoidant things like holding them accountable, confronting them, showing that they

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10 Reasons We Stay in an Abusive Relationship

1. Society normalizes unhealthy behavior so we might not even realize that we’re in an abusive relationship. 2. Emotional abuse destroys your self-esteem so it feels impossible for a new start. 3. The Cycle of Abuse It always includes makeup after a fight. Because

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An abuser will demand privacy

“Stop talking shit about me to your friends.” In a healthy relationship dynamic, you wouldn’t tell your friends what an awful partner you have. Your partner is fundamentally good, and you just got into an argument. But abusers will try to have

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No Contact V.S. Stonewalling

No Contact V.S. Stonewalling

If you use the Grey Rock Method with your abuser you’re probably gonna be accused of stonewalling. Is there a difference? YES! I can summarize the difference for you in a single word: MOTIVE. Learn to recognize what is happening: Pathological partners will

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Grey Rocking VS Silent Treatment

Grey Rocking VS Silent Treatment

It’s a preservation, response to abuse Communicating in a boring way to minimize toxicity and abuse. Silent Treatment It’s an Abuse Tactic. The refusal to communicate with someone who is willing to communicate Difference between the two. Grey rocking uses word and the

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Narcissist are Self-Serving

Narcissist are Self-Serving

When everything is down a person who genuinely cares for you will be there for you. because you need it. A narcissist however will only be there for you.. because they need it. They need to feed on drama to promote their fake persona

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