Do you think you might be in an abusive relationship? Here’s the stages of change: Leaving your abuser
Stage one is pre contemplation, otherwise known as denial.I don’t think I can live without them.I love them.
Stage two is called contemplation. Maybe I could live without them somehow.
Stage three is preparation. I’m going to start researching abuse tactics and trauma bonds.I’m really going to start working on myself.
Stage four is action.This is where the magic happens. I’m leaving.I have a new life to build.
Stage five is maintenance. I’m going to learn how to love myself. I’m going to learn how to set boundaries.I’m going to get to know myself, and I’m going to stay in therapy.
Stage six is termination.You can look at this stage as termination of the addiction.I can’t believe that I ever loved them. God, I’m so much happier now.
We all move through these stages of change.
So where are you in the precontemplation stage? It’s most difficult. This is when you’re experiencing cognitive dissonance.You often don’t know what to believe.Just know that we all experience that confusion.It’s important that you start to educate yourself to gain clarity on what’s really happening.Common question that I see in that particular stage is, is it really that bad?It is.
I’m a certified relationship coach specializing in trauma bond recovery. I can help you move through these stages.
