Pain to Power: Master the Steps to Break Trauma Bonds, Leave Your Abuser, & Cultivate Radical Self-Love.
If you're here, chances are you're feeling stuck. Really stuck.
And I get it.
Maybe you're wrestling with these haunting questions every single day:
Why can't I just leave?
We've all seen the movies, right?
The brave protagonist gathers the courage and walks away into a life of freedom.
Only, for you, it's not that simple. You've probably tried to leave more times than you can count.
Each time, you're pulled back by an invisible force, a confusing mixture of fear, love, and a burning hope that 'maybe this time, it'll be different.'
This is not just a relationship; it's quicksand, pulling you deeper the more you struggle.
Is it actually my fault?
The script in your head is no longer your own. It's a narrative that's been carefully constructed to make you the villain in your own life.
You start to doubt your worth, your intelligence, even your sanity.
You're kept off balance, second-guessing your every move, and it's like living in a house of mirrors - everywhere you turn, a distorted version of yourself stares back.
Why am I always anxious?
Living on eggshells has become your new normal.
Your emotional state is a reflection of your abuser's whims.
They're having a good day? You can breathe a little.
They're having a bad day? It's like tiptoeing through a minefield.
This constant state of vigilance is more than just mentally exhausting; it's a physical weight, one that you carry in clenched fists and sleepless nights.
Will I ever be 'me' again?
Once upon a time, there was a 'you' who laughed easily, who made plans, who had dreams that had nothing to do with survival.
That 'you' feels like a character from another lifetime.
Each day, the distance between who you are and who you were seems to grow wider, and you're haunted by the growing fear that you'll never bridge that gap.
Why doesn't anyone understand?
Well-meaning friends and family make it worse, don't they? "Just leave," they say, as if it's that easy.
They don't understand the invisible chains that hold you, the emotional and often physical threats that make walking away feel like a gamble you can't afford to make.
They mean well, but their lack of understanding isolates you further.
Am I too broken to be loved?
This question hurts the most.
After months or even years of emotional or physical abuse, the idea of 'healthy love' seems like a fairytale, something that happens to other people, people who are more deserving.
You're left feeling unlovable and damaged, a puzzle with missing pieces.
I know how overwhelming it can all feel, but I also know that you're stronger than you think.
How do I know?
Because you're here, reading this, taking the first step.
And the next steps?
They're absolutely possible.
No matter how helpless you feel now,
I promise there's a way out, a way to rebuild, a way to rediscover the real you.
Stay with me, and let's explore how.
You've made it this far, and that's a big deal. Seriously, give yourself a pat on the back. We've talked about some pretty heavy stuff, and facing it takes courage.
But you're still here, still searching for that elusive "way out," and I'm thrilled to say that you've come to the right place.
Your Journey Begins Now
I remember being in your shoes - stuck in a cycle that I couldn't seem to break no matter what I tried. Look, if there was a one-size-fits-all, easy-peasy solution, you'd have found it by now.
But the reality? True healing is messy, complicated, and deeply personal.
Introducing the Trauma Bond Recovery Course: Your Personal Blueprint On Breaking Free From Your Trauma Bond & Healing
Imagine a place where you're understood, where you can drop the armor and be your true self, flaws and all.
That's what this course is. It's not about painting over the cracks; it's about reconstructing the foundation.
We dig deep - sometimes uncomfortably so - but always with the intention of pulling you out of that pit.
To break your trauma bond, you need to understand it. This course will teach you all about abuse and narcissism, and how they relate to your experience. You’ll learn what a trauma bond is and gain a deeper understanding of why you stayed and how to let go.
Through interactive exercises and questions, you’ll unpack who you are without your abuser. You’ll learn how to grieve the loss of the relationship and how to set boundaries for future relationships. We’ll also explore your unmet needs and how you can meet them moving forward.
Once you understand your history, it’s time to look to your future. This course will teach you how to build a fulfilling life without your abuser. You’ll learn how to use a support system, how to nurture personal, romantic, and professional relationships, and how to truly love yourself.
Section 1 - Clarity & Education: Stepping Into Truth
First, you’ll learn what makes a narcissist and how to identify one. You’ll gain a deeper understanding of narcissism and why it’s important to learn about it without dwelling on the label itself.
✅ Lesson 1: Understanding your Trauma Bond
Next, you’ll learn the science behind trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break. We’ll go deep into why a narcissist behaves the way they do and why you might stay in an abusive relationship.
✅ Lesson 2: Living in Reality
It’s likely your abuser has conditioned you to see things their way, so this lesson is all about bringing you back to reality. You’ll learn about trauma responses and how to acknowledge your fears without letting them control you.
✅ Lesson 3: Letting Go of the Potential
In this lesson, you’ll learn how to let go of the potential you saw in your abusive
partner. We’ll tackle whether or not narcissists can change, future faking, and the first major hurdle to letting go.
✅ Lesson 4: One Day at a Time
Healing takes time, radical honesty, and reflection. Don't rush the process. In this lesson, we delve into negative thoughts and forgiveness, and ask the question: did they ever love you?
Section 2- Learn About Yourself: Transformative Reflection
✅ Lesson 5: Own Your Feelings
Abuse can make you feel powerless. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to take back your power, own your feelings, and process your emotions.
✅ Lesson 6: Show Yourself Compassion
This week, we’re diving into self-compassion. You’ll learn how to reframe perceived weaknesses and heal your trauma in a healthy way.
✅ Lesson 7: Grieving the Loss
Grief is an important and natural part of the healing process. This week’s lesson focuses on the grieving journey and, at the end, you’ll get a chance to write a letter to your abuser.
✅ Lesson 8: Acceptable and Unacceptable Behaviors
This week, we’ll explore different behaviors and their impacts. You’ll learn how to build trust in yourself and how to set healthy boundaries with the people around you.
Section 3 - Build Your Future: The Empowerment Blueprint
✅ Lesson 9: Your Unmet Needs
In this lesson, you’ll learn how to understand and meet your own needs so you can start building a life without your abuser.
✅ Lesson 10: Your Future Life
Picturing a future without your abuser can feel impossible. Module 10 is all about imagining what your professional, personal, and romantic life could look like without your abuser.
✅ Lesson 11: Building Your Support System
This week, you’ll learn about the types of support you need, what’s available to you, and how to identify who should be part of your support system.
✅ Lesson 12: Self Love & Confidence
Stop putting your self-worth in someone else’s hands. In our final lesson, you’ll learn all about self-love and self-acceptance and how to cultivate more of both in your life.
If you're on this page, I know you're contemplating a significant decision. This isn't just a course; it's an investment in your emotional and psychological well-being.
Many programs on trauma recovery and personal transformation can easily cost anywhere from $500 - $5,000. But I understand that when you're recovering from a trauma bond, financials can be tight.
The full course - every lesson, every exercise, every insight - is yours for just $99.
Why? Because I genuinely want this to be accessible for you.
Yep, you can revisit these lessons whenever you need a refresher. They're always here for you.
Knowledge is power, but practice solidifies that power. Along with the lessons, you'll receive engaging worksheets and activities designed to not just teach, but help you internalize and apply what you've learned. It's a hands-on approach to ensure the teachings go beyond theory and become a part of your healing journey.
To ensure you're not walking this journey alone, you also get access to a private Facebook community. It's a safe space to share, learn, and heal with others who understand your struggle intimately. You can ask questions, seek advice, or simply share your progress. And I will be present in the community as well, offering insights and answering questions.
And because you're committing to yourself, there's a cheeky bonus waiting for you at the end of the course - a special module that'll teach you how to get your own revenge on a narcissist in the smartest and most foolproof way.
So are you ready to start this journey? I'll be here every step of the way, and I can't wait to see you flourish.
(Or you can purchase individual sections for $39 each, allowing you to target specific areas of growth.)
Hi! I’m Lisa Sonni, a certified Relationship Coach, founder of Stronger Than Before, and author of four books:
I’m an expert on narcissism and trauma bonds, and I help people of all genders and walks of life overcome challenges related to abusive partnerships.
That’s the fancy, third-person version, anyway. In case we’re not yet acquainted on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook or YouTube, here’s what you really need to know about me.
I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse and domestic assault, which means I understand where you’re coming from. I’ll meet you wherever you are on your journey and help you get where you want to be.
Because, as a survivor, I know how freaking good life can be when you let go of abuse and break that trauma bond.
Okay, let's switch gears for a second.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath.
I want you to picture your life free from the heavy chains of your trauma bond.
How does it feel? A little scary? Overwhelming? Exhilarating?
All of the above? Perfect, you're in the right place.
Imagine waking up in the morning and feeling a sense of peace you haven't felt in years, maybe even decades.
The air seems fresher and lighter as if it's filled with possibilities.
You stretch your arms, no longer weighed down by the crushing burden of someone else's emotional baggage.
Picture going through your day with a renewed sense of self-worth and clarity.
No more walking on eggshells.
No more twisted stomach aches from anxiety.
No more second-guessing every little thing you say or do.
Instead, you're grounded, confident, and, most importantly, unapologetically you.
And the relationships in your life?
Oh, they're different.
They're filled with mutual respect, love, and the kind of emotional connection you used to think only existed in fairy tales.
You've set boundaries that honor your well-being, and you'll find that people respect you more for it.
How about that dusty shelf full of dreams and aspirations?
Well, it's not so dusty anymore.
You've taken it down, polished it off, and you're living it - every single day.
You've got plans! Plans that are all yours, untainted by someone else's negativity or control.
But here's the most beautiful part - each day, you wake up choosing yourself.
You've learned to show yourself the compassion, love, and respect you've deserved all along.
You've become your own best friend, advocate, and cheerleader.
And remember that cheeky bonus module you'll unlock?
You'll find the greatest revenge is living a life so fulfilling, so authentically yours, that you become living proof of what's possible after breaking free.
Okay, open your eyes. I know it's a lot to take in.
But this is the life that's waiting for you on the other side of this course, this community, this journey. And it's closer than you think.
So, are you ready to make it a reality? Because I can't wait to see you thrive.
The Trauma Bond Recovery Course is made up of 12 modules designed to be completed at your own pace. I recommend setting aside 90 minutes - two hours each week to complete the readings and activities for that week. You can stop and start at your own pace. There are no homework assignments, no weekly check-ins.
This course is for people who are in OR out of the abusive relationship already, but still feeling stuck in the cycle of a trauma bond.
his is a digital course that you can complete on your phone, tablet, or computer. An optional resource to help you reflect on your learnings is The Trauma Bond Recovery Journal. When you enroll in the course, you’ll get a 25% discount on the PDF journal and discounts on other helpful resources. The paperback version is available on Amazon.
By embracing the full package at just $99, you'll unlock a holistic healing journey that ignites lasting transformation. If you're already on your healing path, our $39 individual sections target specific growth areas. For a personalized starting point, explore our "What Stage of Breaking The Trauma Bond Am I At?" quiz – a swift, obligation-free assessment tailoring your unique healing plan. Your journey towards empowerment starts here.
Trauma Bonds exist in abusive relationships, whether they are a narcissist or not - you often won't know if they are or aren't, and one of the first lessons is letting go of the label. This course is for anyone in or out of an abusive relationship, regardless of the abusers mental health diagnosis.
Please remember to use a card that your abuser does not have access to. You can reach out to me directly if you want to make any special arrangements for other methods of payment.
The Trauma Bond Recovery Course will give you the tools and resources you need to break your trauma bond. You’ll receive detailed lessons, worksheets, reflective questions, videos, articles, and book recommendations from a certified relationship coach and survivor of abuse.
Although I can’t break your trauma bond for you, this course will give you what you need to understand your relationship and how to move on from it. You’ll need to put in the work and implement what you’ve learned, but trust me - it will be so worth it!
This course is self-guided so you can complete it whenever and wherever you like. If you have any questions during the course, you can post them on the course platform or FB and I’ll respond directly. Want more 1:1 time with me? You can book private coaching sessions for trauma bond recovery or self-love and confidence at any time.
If you’re not happy with the course after you enroll, send me an email and we can discuss how to move forward. Please note that the course is non-refundable.
Take a moment with me. Really consider what's at stake here.
What happens if today passes and nothing changes?
What's the real price of standing still?
Imagine, just for a moment, the months and years rolling by while you remain trapped in the same emotional quagmire.
A relationship that doesn't lift you up but instead makes you question your worth every single day.
You might hope for a "better tomorrow," but deep down, you'd know that some things remain stubbornly unchanged.
And those dreams you've held onto, those aspirations? They'd stay just out of reach, overshadowed by the very real chaos of your present.
In essence, every day of inaction is a silent nod to this cycle, a tacit agreement to its continuation.
I've walked this path. I know the weight of that choice.
But remember, doing nothing is still a choice.
It's an endorsement of a life that constantly diminishes you.
Ask yourself, what is your peace of mind truly worth?
Your dreams? Your very identity?
Surely, it's more than $99.
Choosing to change is no small feat, but living a half-life, always in the shadow of what could be, is far more significant.
Don't let inaction dictate your narrative.
I believe in you. I'm here, ready to guide and support you on this transformative journey.
Three things will help you break and heal from your trauma bond: educating yourself on their tactics, learning about yourself and what got you here (free from self judgement) and building a future that includes self-love...not your abuser.
Do you want to break free and learn radical self-love?
Click YES and I'll show you how.