Grief is often a necessary feeling but grief is a feeling that you don’t need to feed.
The story that you attached to the feeling is why it lingers and it worsens when you repeat the story to yourself, it’s a vicious loop.
In an abusive relationship we are often grieving the lost of who we taught they were. Grieving the lost of potential and future that we planned and this is where you should remind yourself…
It was made up.
The whole thing was a fantasy and i know that it was real to you. Focus on reality. It wasn’t actually real.
So you didn’t actually lose. Feel the grief because it’s necessary but don’t feed it.
