Books I Recommend
Why Does He Do That
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.
How He Gets Into Her Head
Presenting some groundbreaking ideas, this book prompts a radical reappraisal of how we think about and understand male intimate abuse and violence. This book uncovers the layers of covert tactics which men employ to establish and maintain control over their intimate partner. By deepening our understanding of what is going on the author suggests that we can develop a more efficient and consistent response to the issue.
Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance
If you’re in or have been in a relationship with a pathological personality yet somehow ended up believing that everything bad was your fault, you’re not alone. That’s the super-power of disordered personalities: making their victims believe they are in the wrong even when they’re not.
Character Disturbance
In Character Disturbance, psychologist George Simon argues that modern permissiveness has allowed disturbed individuals to reach adulthood unsocialized, offering readers a plain-English guide to how these people think, manipulate, and exploit others. The book identifies key personality types, explains why traditional therapy fails their victims, and provides practical tactics to protect oneself and encourage accountability in disturbed characters.
How To Meet Yourself
An interactive workbook designed to help every reader uncover their Authentic Self and achieve lasting personal transformation. By objectively and compassionately observing the physical, mental, and emotional patterns that fill our days and create our current selves, we can more clearly see what we do not wish to carry into the future.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.
Trauma and Recovery
Trauma and Recovery is the foundational text on understanding trauma survivors. By placing individual experience in a political frame, psychiatrist Judith L. Herman argues that psychological trauma is inseparable from its social and political context. Drawing on her own research on incest, as well as a vast literature on combat veterans and victims of political terror, she shows surprising parallels between private horrors like child abuse and public horrors like war.
Waking the Tiger
In Waking the Tiger, Dr. Peter Levine presents a body-centered approach to trauma healing based on his Somatic Experiencing® method, arguing that trauma is a natural process the body can resolve when properly supported. Drawing on how animals instinctively release survival energy after threatening events, he explains why unprocessed fight-flight-or-freeze responses keep humans "stuck" and offers practical exercises, parenting techniques, and first-aid strategies to help trauma move through the body before it takes root in lasting patterns of avoidance, hypervigilance, and dysregulation.
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